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If you are starting this post without having read “What is a Khuya?”, please take a moment and go back to read that first.

Why is this Khuya named “Anger”?
The Anger Khuya is named thusly due to its connection to a certain pain point within you. As a human, you have experienced anger. You have felt it in you, and targeted at you. You have developed all sorts of feelings about it. Some people like to feel anger because it makes them feel powerful. Some people fear their anger because they are afraid of hurting people if they lose their temper. Each Khuya has a spectrum of attributes that we might, if we are holding judgements, define as being good, or being bad. This is one of the Khuyas that speaks directly to a feeling within a person, and how it reaches out into that person’s life. This name is also offered to us as part of our teaching. We do not decide it, however; as we work with each Khuya, we learn about it, and we grow. This Khuya may be an Anger Khuya for me, but it could be a Passion Khuya for someone else. The meaning tends to shift for each person it is being asked to speak about.

What specifically does the Anger Khuya do?
The Anger Khuya offers me a place where I can process and review my anger, and related feelings and how I have interacted with them, but also how it could be. If I feel I have acted in Anger:

1. Why?
2. Was it needed?
3. Was there another way I could have handled it?
4. Would I change that interaction if I were able?
5. What else can I learn from that to apply to the future?
6. What does the spike of this emotion tell me about myself?
7. What judgements have I made?
8. What expectations have I not communicated that are not being met?

Can I process my anger energy like you can with your Khuya?
Not exactly like I can, but yes. Yes, because you ALWAYS have the ability to look into yourself and process your emotions in a healthy way. If you have encountered a place where you felt anger, were you alone? If you leave an interaction with someone, and you just feel off by it. Take a moment to think about how you acted. Did you act with emotion? If you were not aware of the context of that meeting, and you witnessed it, how would you judge the interaction? What could you have done better? What could you have made more clear? What information did you have that they didn’t? What assumptions did you make? If you can take away assumptions, and aim for clarity, you may find that your valid argument has actually put you in a place of that conversation for which you feel horrible. And if you get to this point, and you feel horrible, a way to process that is to accept responsibility for your part in it. Don’t blame others. Don’t scape-goat your hard feelings onto others. Don’t project your feelings onto others. Only think about what you could have done better. This gives you power to change this in your future. (It pulls you away from the victim role in from your own emotions.) Then reach out to that person. Apologize and admit to the realizations you have made. You will most-likely not only bring clarity to the conversation, but you will also allow that person to trust you more. The work isn’t easy, but it is powerful.

This process is a tool you can use to help you improve your relationship with those around you. If you feel as if you have ever been angry with someone. You can process as above to not only identify the truth of how you are acting in any moment, but how to make sure it is a choice you are making.

What does “spectrum of attributes” look like with the Anger Khuya?
As with all emotions, Anger is more complicated than we ever care to think of. When I think about Anger, I instantly seize up in fear. When I was seven, I had some pretty severe trauma that caused me to learn that when I got angry, I blacked out and hurt people. This happened once in high school to. And from the moment it happened, at age seven, I feared my anger. I was using the Martial arts to teach me how to deal with my anger, how to manage it, but that same training actually put me in an even greater state of fear around my anger, when it did break through. I was extremely efficient at hurting people now. What if it was ever turned loose without my awareness? What if I could never truly control my anger.

It wasn’t until my most recent teaching, that I really acknowledged the level of hurt I offered my Anger Khuya, but having an attitude around anger that was not just a negative opinion, but so afraid of this aspect in myself as to not even take time to understand my anger. I have been doing some serious work in the last couple weeks to understand more about anger in general, but in doing so, my goal is to understand MY anger.

I will break down some of the things I learned about anger in general, but the essential part for me in this work, has been to see that I have nothing to fear from my anger. Anger, like every emotion, is a healthy emotion. What I can now see that I have been actually fearing, is that I am a highly trained Martial Artist, and in the past (triggered by anger and self-defense) I have blacked out and really hurt people. But that truly was in self defense, and angry or no, I would not have harmed those people if I didn’t feel threatened. And that is it. I said it, and I saw it. My fear has never actually been about my anger. And I can feel it now, and at worst be a little curt. But, I will not harm someone unless I intend to do so, and other than someone attempting to harm my family, I can see no reason that I would want to. My fear is no longer a healthy fear. I have realized that I am good person. And I look forward to experiencing the various forms of anger knowing that my family can understand if I say, “Wow, I am feeling extremely angry about this, I need to go step away for a bit.”

Let me explain to you a bit about anger. – Side note: I am grateful to my MKP iGroup for giving my so much helpful information when I asked for advice.

Angry
The emotion as it stands, with no judgement about it. Experiencing strong emotions of Anger. Being Angry is acceptable. Feel your fucking feelings.

Frustration
I would consider this a low grade anger. Very similar to annoyance, however, this tends to be in regards to an inability to achieve or change something.

Irritation
I would also consider this a low grade anger. Showing or feeling slightly annoyed.

Immature Anger – Rage
Anger when uncontrolled can cause you to, or you allow yourself to, by overtaken by the powerful feeling of anger. And that allows you to bring yourself to a point where you destroy things around you, relationships as well as things.

Mature Anger – Harbinger of change
When you are truly angry about something or at someone, taking the time to realize that the target of your anger is most often NOT what you think it is. It is often something that is underlying what you see. And if you can see your anger, and acknowledge this piece, you can turn your anger into fuel to help you change what you see as the problem. It gives you the motivation to change the situation around you and improve things. It can also allow you to see aspects of yourself that you many know you were carrying. Anger can allow you to learn more about yourself, and perpetuate growth.

When Reading the Misa, how does the Anger Khuya read in someone’s life?
It is important that we look at each Khuya without judgement. We carry our bias about our emotions, and experiences. Which is good, which is bad, and so forth. But Anger is one that I had considered bad until very recently. When I realized that my interpretation, judgement and mental connections to anger were not actually connected to a healthy aspect of anger. So, when looking at this stone in the Misa, I must consider if this stone is holding the energy of the mature, or immature state of the stone. Or if it even represents anger in the reading to the person for whom the reading is taking place.

How did I learn to read the Anger Khuya in my Misa?
This question is both simple, and completely too complicated. As mentioned in the post about what a Khuya is, these stones are part of me. They are also not part of me. There are aspects I use to learn that are very ‘study and learn’ like the meaning of placements, and the meaning of the Khuya, and the Kintu, but there are some piece that really seem to be part of the Khuya speaking to me. Being able to process things like, which is getting in the way of me bring my best self. Why does this come up whenever I review something that is unknown. It allows me to see change in progress. So, I put things down, and I know their meanings, and I trust the information that comes to me.

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If you are starting this post without having read “What is a Khuya?“, please take a moment and go back to read that first.

Why is this Khuya named “Villain”?
The Villain Khuya is named thusly due to its connection to a certain pain point within you, and your personal lineage. There are aspects of ourselves that cause pain in others, as well as cause pain within ourselves. This is not always a bad thing, but it can seem that way. Each Khuya has a spectrum of attributes that we might, if we are holding judgements, define as being good, or being bad. This is one of the Khuyas that talk to how we interact in our relationships WITH someone else, even if that someone else is you. This name is also offered to us as part of our teaching. We do not decide it, however; as we work with each stone, we learn about it, and we grow. This stone may be a Villain Khuya for me, but it could be a Council Khuya for someone else. The meaning tends to shift for each person it is being asked to speak about.

What specifically does the Villain Khuya do?
The Villain Khuya allows me a place where I can process and review my interactions with others and weigh how my interactions have been, but also how they could be. If I feel as if I have acted the part of the villain in an interaction:

1. Why?
2. Was it needed?
3. Was there another way I could have handled it?
4. Would I change that interaction if I were able?
5. What else can I learn from that to apply to the future?

Can I process my villain energy like you can with your Khuya?
Not exactly like I can, but yes. Yes because you ALWAYS have the ability to look into yourself and process your emotions in a healthy way. If you leave an interaction with someone, and you just feel off by it. Take a moment to think about how you acted. Did you act with emotion? If you were not aware of the context of that meeting, and you witnessed it, how would you judge the interaction? What could you have done better? What could you have made more clear? What information did you have that they didn’t? What assumptions did you make? If you can take away assumptions, and aim for clarity, you may find that your valid argument has actually put you in a place of that conversation for which you feel horrible. And if you get to this point, and you feel horrible, a way to process that is to accept responsibility for your part in it. Don’t blame others. Don’t scape-goat your hard feelings onto others. Only think about what you could have done better. This makes gives you power to change this in your future. (It pulls you away from the victim role in from your own emotions.) Then reach out to that person. Apologize and admit to the realizations you have made. You will most-likely not only bring clarity to the conversation, but you will also allow that person to trust you more. The work isn’t easy, but it is powerful.

This process is a tool you can use to help you improve your relationship with those around you. If you feel you have been the Villain, the Victim, the Hero, or even a Jester in a relationship. You can process as above to not only identify the truth of how you are acting in any moment, but how to make sure it is a choice you are making.

What does “spectrum of attributes” look like with the Villain Khuya?
The aspect of the villain is much more complicated than we realize. When we hear the word villain, the impression that comes to mind is that of an evil person that is acting with cruelty and/or taking from others. There is a fair amount of truth in that statement, however; it seems rarely targeted at others. We tend to be the cruel villain … to ourselves.

When we act the villain towards others, it tends to be in the space of ‘tough love’. The “I know this seems cruel, but we need to intercede for your own good.”

If you were to look at the states of a villain (and I can only name a few of many), and compare it to a judgement, you can start to see how it is a spectrum.

Great (Healthy or Mature Villain) – The intention is good, the empathy is clear, and the follow through is present.
“Jimmy, I can see by the receipts on your floor that you have been gambling too much, and it is affecting your family in a horrible way. I am going to take you to get help, and I will stay with you, and make you finish it out. I have your family in mind, and I have their support. You need this help.”

Good – The intention is good, but there is neither empathy, nor follow through.
“Suzanna, I love you, but you really need to stop smoking.”

Questionable – Well, the intention was good.
“Bill, I think you are a drunk, so I am going to go to all the bars and post your picture with your name and Don’t serve this man.”

Bad – Does not generally come off with Good intentions, but may have been the start.
“Mellissa, You are horrible, and maybe if you stopped dressing that way, you would get a raise.”

Horrible (Unhealthy and Immature Villain) – The intention was never in favor of these two. And there was follow through.
“John, Diane, I know you have entrusted me with your life savings, but I have decided I really need a trip to the Bahamas. Good luck.”

It is also important to remember that the “villain” is also a matter of perspective. A quote I enjoy (that is relevant) is: “A war has many hero’s… on both sides.” This quote allows us to step out of our single perspective to see that the villain we fight, is the hero of the another set of people.

When reading the Misa, how does the Villain Khuya read in someone’s life?

The Villain Stone is a single stone that is connected directly to two others. The Victim Stone, and the Hero Stone. It is part of a triad to help you look at the balance you hold between yourself, and anyone with whom you are in relationship.

Once again, there are many ways this can be read, and sometimes it is just a feeling that I get that really has almost NO connection to what I see. But I will list a few things I look for:

1. When looking to read the villain stone in my Misa, there are several things I look for. First thing is the triad of which it is a part. The Hero, the Villain, and the Victim.
   We immediately think “I want to be the hero between the three.” But the truth is, if you are too far toward ANY of the three in that triangle, you are out of balance. You should really aim to be centered in the triangle in each relationship as a starting point, and only change that as an intentional choice in the moment.
2. Another aspect to review is where within the Misa it sits. Is it close to the Divine, the Intellect, the Soul, the Healer, Love, Unknown, or your Core? Different areas of the Misa can reflect different aspects of ourselves and our wants.
3. I look for it in relation to other stones. With all the options, I can look at the way the energy is moving, or the direction of the Kintu (Prayer Leaves), or even other artifacts in the Misa to derive the correct meaning for that moment. For instance, if the villain stone is between Anger and Love.
   1. It could be preventing anger from healing with Love
   2. it could be protecting love from anger
   3. it could be protecting anger from self-destructing with support of love
   4. it could be giving anger the space to know it can heal or grow without interference of another stone.

While the meaning may change in a single reading, each stone is essential to the Misa and the reading. There may be times when a specific stone is not really part of the relevant reading, but I cannot fathom the Misa without it.

How did I learn to read the Villain Khuya in my Misa?
This question is both simple, and completely too complicated. As mentioned in the post about what a Khuya is, these stones are part of me. They are also not part of me. There are aspects I use to learn that are very ‘study and learn’ like the meaning of placements, and the meaning of the Khuya, and the Kintu, but there are some piece that really seem to be part of the Khuya speaking to me. Being able to process things like, A part of my that is acting as a villain is sitting in where I store love, and it is held up by victim and addiction. This could lead you to make the assumption that you are a villain because you have fallen victim to your addiction, and it makes you do horrible things. So, I put things down, and I know their meanings, and I trust the information that comes to me. Sometimes the Addiction Khuya feels like it is about Obsession, sometimes the Villain Khuya feels like a Therapy or Council. It is about learning, and trusting.

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After several failed attempts, I have learned that writing about my Khuya is one of the more difficult things I have had to write. However, being able to articulate anything about them would be helpful – so I will try. (A random note, It is made all the more intimidating by the fact that I currently have 13 Khuya.)

A Khuya is a stone that carries abundant kawsay (life energy) and is considered a stone of power and a living being. It is used for healing, processing heavy energy, aiding the Paq’o in learning more about themselves, and communicating with the spirit world. The word itself means love or affection, but is also interpreted as Awakened Stone. Khuyas are at the heart of the Misa. The Misa is at the heart of my ability to be a Paq’o. A Misa (Short for Misaq’epe in Quechua) is roughly equivalent to our current understanding of a Medicine Bundle.

Each Khuya is connected to the Shaman, yet is the sheer essence of a feeling or a role the Shaman carries. It can also hold the essence of something tied to yet distinct from the Shaman. It’s essence makes it unique in the Misa, and in the world. Even if another Paq’o has an Anger Khuya, mine is unique because it was created with an aspect of me.

Magically, Khuya are unique in what they are.  Most magical items, are either magical because they are controlled by a persons’ magic, or because they have their own consciousness and power.  Khuya are the only items, I am aware of, that are both.  They are connected to the Paq’o, yet have their own consciousness.

Every Khuya does several things to help the Paq’o. (Here are the general bits, each post will elaborate further)

1. Every Khuya is like an aspect of me dedicated to processing and cleaning up heavy feelings related to the individual stone. Hucha is the word for Heavy Energy. Stuff that is too difficult or scary for me to process in my every day. Sami is the word for Light Energy. Stuff that is easily processed and built upon. Each Khuya can work as a friend who helps you process your hard feelings, and returns your efforts with Sami.
2. Each Khuya allows me a place where I can process and review my interactions with a specific emotion, experience, or memory.
3. It gives me a view of each aspect in myself or others, that I can use in a reading with my Misa. (Like a Divination type reading)

Having these Khuya give me a unique set of abilities in regards to processing energy. Khuya are a remarkable part of this lineage, and a person without Khuya will never be able to process as much energy as you could with them. Imagine having over a dozen employees that can help you do the work of your every day… They are invaluable.

Writing this post was in someways an afterthought, but it became essential when I realized that I would have to write this description at the top of every post where I described an individual Khuya.

Khuya Posts:

• Villain Khuya
• Anger Khuya
• Victim Khuya